Message | My heart goes out to you and to Lauren, we were in your boat back in May 2008. I am not sure Addison would have adjusted as she did if our boys had not been there. All I can say is be strick but not to strick on her there will be time to take care of all the little stuff later. Addison really enjoyed making a mess, throwing stacking cups and just being funny. My Mommy in me told me to stop her from now do not let it even start but the never an adoptive Mom in me said to back off and sweat the small stuff when we get home. It really worked and I would never allowed my boys to do what she did. The way you described Lauren tantrums remind me of Addison's, oh do I remember the pinching,slapping,bitting and pushing. I found the best way to force her to be close to us was to put her in a snuggly carrier anytime we were out and about in China. She really only walked when we were in our room, this would not have been her 1st choice but it worked. We even used it when we arrived back home anytime it was needed. Your are in our prayers and just know we have all been there done that. I know it does not feel like it now but day by day it will get better and one day you will look back on this and smile maybe even laught. We have! I would have bet my house, while in China that would never happen, but now I know just how far we have come. Many prayers and love from, Winchester Kentucky |